by Neil K
Is it just men who should be Direct about their romantic & sexual intentions? What about women? Can they be Direct too?
I say YES, ABSOLUTELY!
I have noticed that the vast majority of women, when they are attracted to a guy, will rarely come out and tell him directly. Instead, most women will simply 'float about', drop 'hints' and send 'non verbal signals' to guys they fancy, hoping these guys will somehow 'get the message' and ask them out/make the first move.
Now, since most men in modern society tend to also be indirect, this usually leads to a whole lot of confusion and frustration for the guy and the girl.
A lot of women are too scared to be Direct for fear of being labelled a 'slut'. I guess they also dislike rejection too. And then there are those women who believe the guy should always be the one to initiate the first approach.
Now, all women in society probably aren't going to suddenly become Direct with guys any time soon, so us men NEED to be Direct. But I'd like to help also empower women to be Direct with men too, should they want to.
Recently, one of my friends, who is quite a bit older than me, had a women pursuing him. She told him directly that she was attracted to him, would like to date him, have sex with him, etc. He thought it was a breath of fresh air and he never thought less of her for being so forward. He said he actually prefers women to be Direct about their intentions, instead of doing all this 'beat around the bush', wishy-washy bullshit.
So to any women who may read this blog, we men in general do not mind you being Direct with us. I'd say that most men would find it refreshing. Girls, next time you are attracted to a guy and want to hook up with him, why not take it upon yourself to be Direct with him?
To any men who do think less of women for being Direct, stop being so judgemental and start respecting the fact that they were honest and upfront with you.
I know for me, I have no problem whatsoever with women being Direct with me. But the truth is, it happens so rarely that I take it upon myself to always be Direct with them first. I don't sit around hoping and waiting for them to approach me; I take a proactive approach.
The vast majority of men will have to be Direct with women (unless you suddenly become famous or something and women start approaching you). But once you gain the necessary confidence to be Direct and start getting the results you're looking for, you will not be complaining :-)
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