by Neil K

I'd like to talk about the subject of defined vs undefined relationships, and how leaving your relationships undefined will always lead to problems.

A defined relationship is one where both you and the woman you're dating or hooking up with have been crystal clear with each other about your intentions, i.e as to whether the relationship is monogamous or non-monogamous, serious or casual, short-term/mid-term/long-term, etc. These things have been discussed, and everyone is clear about what the relationship is and there is absolutely no confusion.

An undefined relationship is the opposite of this, usually where a guy and girl are 'seeing each other' for a while and have spent time together, even been sexually intimate etc, but neither party has actually discussed verbally as to what sort of relationship it actually is. The result is confusion and ambiguity on both sides.

by Neil K

Disclaimer: this blog post assumes you are looking for casual sex and not a serious, monogamous relationship and is not intended to offend! 

When it really comes down to it, what do you really need a woman for?

Someone to have deep, interesting conversations with? Nope...I can have these types of conversations with my male friends or acquaintances.

Companionship? Someone to 'hang out with'? Not really...I tend to prefer my own company or that of close friends and family anyway.

A life partner or 'soulmate'? Nah...not for me. I'm on my own path through life, and being bound to one woman will only restrict my freedom and hold me back from pursuing my goals.

by Neil K

Over the years, I have had many heated debates about the direct approach in discussion forums related to dating and relationships. I recently posted a thread on a popular student forum about the direct approach, offering to answer any question anyone might have about dating and hooking up with women, where my intention was to help people solve whatever problem they were having with dating and hooking up, by giving my answer from the perspective of the direct approach philosophy.

The thread achieved over 32,000 views, nearly 2,000 replies and ran to 98 pages in length (what can I say - I'm popular, and my perspective on dating, relationships and hooking up always ruffles feathers and generates interesting discussion wherever I go, as well as attracts a raft of female stalkers, who pretend to 'hate me', but in reality find me intriguing and can't get enough of me and what I have to say).

by Neil K

As we start 2016, I'd like to pay tribute to a hero of mine who passed away earlier this week, Lemmy Kilmister of the rock band Motorhead. What has this got to do with the direct approach, I hear you say?

Well, this guy was an example through and through of a person who was direct in all areas of his life, including with women. 

by Neil K

I have heard some people say you should wait for a woman to give you an 'approach invitation' before you approach her, so that you will get a favourable reaction and you won't get rejected when you approach.

What is an 'approach invitation'? Well, first of all, I don't really like the term 'approach invitation', as it has connotations of PUA style terminology, but for the purpose of this post it serves its use. An 'approach invitation' is any 'sign' or 'signal' a woman gives you (usually non-verbal) that she finds you attractive and wants you to approach her.

The most common of these is prolonged eye contact, often followed by a smile, or the 'double-take' eye contact, i.e. when you look a girl, she looks at you, you or her then look away and then you look back at her and she looks at you again (and possibly smiles at you again).