The detrimental effects of watching porn - an anti-porn article

The info in this blog and in my ebooks provides you with everything you need to know to successfully hook up with women for real by being direct and honest...so as a Direct guy you should, ideally, have no need for porn.

Porn is too readily available in this generation and has caused too many negative effects upon men. I'd like to now hand you over to Mike's article about this subject. He will also discuss how women in the porn industry are mistreated and exploited....

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“We believe more in men than the pornographers do. And you know how I know that the pornographers don’t tell the truth about men? I know that as a feminist, I know that as a scholar, and above all I know that as the mother of a son. My son is worth better than this. If my son is, then I believe your son is too.” – Gail Dines

It would not be unreasonable to cite feminism for the partial emasculation of men in the modern age, as men become increasingly confused as to what is deemed as ‘appropriate’ and ‘inappropriate’ when it comes to dealing with women. This is highly ironic given that we also live in a highly sexualised society which in many ways has become overtly ‘pornified’. As has been pointed out by contemporary feminist, and ‘Pornland’ author Gail Dines, women are now defined by two distinct categories: “Fuckable” and “Unfuckable”. If they fall into the category of the latter, they are deemed as invisible. When you start seeing them in this way, they become little more than toys, and any man with any level of self-respect will at least be able to comprehend that they are at least human beings.

There are points of view among advocates of direct which may cause opposition among feminists. My personal belief is that in fact, being direct with women is a far more supportive platform for feminists as for a start it doesn’t assume women are stupid. A direct man is open in his reasons for approaching a woman and puts his desires on the table for the woman to make her own decisions about whether or not she wants to sleep with a man. Unlike conventional and PUA dating advice, no manipulative tactics such as ‘wining and dining’ or ‘forced connections’ are made. I think not treating a woman as an idiot is far more respectful than using tactics to get her, and indeed if she says no you can respect her decision.

What porn (and PUA) does is enforce a culture of male entitlement in which women are seen as playthings for men to manipulate and lie to, or do whatever they want to sexually. Porn teaches a culture that men exist in order to abuse women and do “whatever they want” to them. What men REALLY want to do is abuse women, call them names, hit them and treat them like dogs, and porn enforces a culture where this is seen as acceptable. Mutual respect and a love of each other’s sexual company be damned, she’s your plaything now and she wants you to dominate and demean her. This is among the detrimental lies put out there by this industry.

First of all, let’s change who the two performers are. You want to do all this nasty, abusive and violent stuff to this woman. It turns you on to see her humiliated and dominated aggressively by the muscleman with a perpetually hard cock, imagining its yourself about to fuck that gorgeous peroxide haired blonde being fucked in the arse by the faceless muscleman. He withdraws and with his shit smeared dick, he shoves it in her mouth (Ass to Mouth, something I’m sure at least a few of you are familiar with). You’re so turned on, watching this girl be abused like this. Now, let’s use our imagination and instead of a peroxide overly made up blonde there being made to lick shit off a dick, lets imagine the woman is perhaps your mother, or your sister and the man is their partner (could be your father in the former case). How do you feel now? Is this how you’d ever want a loved one to be treated by another man? Can you imagine them enjoying every second of this moment, sucking a dick covered in faeces?

Perhaps you should ask her if she ever fantasised about doing this to a man, or fantasised about having a dick shoved down her throat so hard that she chokes but the man never lets her come out for air. Is that all your mother is to you? A dirty whore to be abused and played with by your father? If the notion disgusts you, then good. You see your loved ones as human beings, and the last thing you want is to see them treated like this.

These porn actresses are the loved ones of others too, and if that was my daughter made to perform in that manner I would be utterly distraught. Not because I am some sort of prude or non-believer in sexual freedom, but the idea that my own child could be treated in such an appalling manner would be unbearable. As you sit there masturbating, you are supporting it by clicking on it or purchasing it for entertainment, and if the direction that porn has taken in recent years is to be believed, you are also helping to endorse and fund an industry which seeks to become even more extreme.

Lately via documentaries discussing the realities of the industry, I have been made aware of scenes being created in the porn industry which are considered by international law as torture (among these scenes are portrayals of women being drowned while being fucked). Is this your real sexuality? Or is your sexuality dictated to by those wishing to keep a hold of you so that you will continue to click and open your wallets wishing to chase the next extreme.

This leads onto a problem encountered by many young men of late having their sexual fantasies dictated to by the media. Erectile dysfunction of young men has now exploded exponentially since the arrival of high speed internet porn. More doctors are reporting the increased numbers while before the numbers were men in their late 40s or 50s. Men are no longer able to get turned on by normal women or standard sex and are now increasingly only able to achieve full arousal via the use of porn, some using it before they have sex with a partner (including some porn stars themselves).

Like all species, humans are evolutionarily programmed to reproduce, and the visual stimulus of an attractive female should be enough to make us rock hard alone. And as tough as it is for me to admit to it, I don’t even need an article to tell me this – I’ve experienced it myself personally. Even if the above reasons do not put you off watching porn (perhaps you see me as preachy or self-righteous, I don’t give a shit, it’s the harsh truth of the matter), then surely the prospect that you cannot even get your dick hard to carry out a sex act should in itself be a major issue.

And are you not better than that? Are you not better than sitting alone in a dark room with your knob out, jerking away to watching other people have sex? I’d like to think that I am, no matter how many times I have indulged in it. Whose cock do you want that pretty brunette to be sucking? Some faceless abusive prick who thinks of her as dirt, and who does it so you can imagine that it’s you? Would it not be better if it was you she was pleasuring with those sensual, full lips? A woman deserves to feel beautiful while you’re having sex with her – after all isn’t that the reason you approached her, complimented her and asked her to come back to your place, because she’s beautiful and you want to feel the soft skin of her stomach glide over your own as the two of you make love.

Isn’t that what you deserve more than watching a guy who tells you that the best way to show your affection for a woman is to call her a “Bitch” or a “Whore”? I’d prefer to let a girl know in no uncertain terms that she is sexy and desirable and that I want her to enjoy having sex with me as I do with her. Do you think a woman feels beautiful as she is called names and degraded? She may know that there are certainly men being turned on by her degradation, but somehow I have my doubts she feels sexy as a guy pisses on her face. I am not condemning masturbation, it is a perfectly natural activity and can be very enjoyable, but ultimately think about what it is you are watching as you force yourself to ejaculation.

I also believe that if you do not indulge in internet porn, you will end up accomplishing more as the bright flicker of a computer screen will hold a lot less allure. You will feel so horny and turned on you will force yourself to push yourself even further. Your balls will grow not because they are blue, but because you desire sex so much that you will HAVE to improve in your means of getting it. If you’re still a virgin or haven’t had sex for a while, imagine how satisfying it will be to blow your load in a woman’s pussy instead of the palm of your hand.

Besides improving your ability at being direct, I will say you’ll get more done and gain greater pleasure from life – it will allow a regrowth in both grey matter and dopamine, which porn has been shown to decrease both among addicts. Some people have even gone as far as claiming that their rejection of porn has cured their depression, which will make you even more attractive to the opposite sex. In the end, you are a human being, and so are women. Don’t allow some grease ball in Los Angeles to dehumanize either of you, because by doing so you are feeding the vultures who prey upon you.