by Neil K
Over the last few years, I've had my fair share of debates and run ins with various PUAs and 'seduction gurus' in several discussion forums and blog comments related to seduction, dating and relationships, basically because they were spreading false information about Direct, and I had to put things right by calling them out on their bullshit.
I'm not well liked by PUAs and 'seduction gurus' because of this. I've been banned from a few forums because I stood my ground and refused to back down on my point of view when defending the Direct approach.
The other reason they don't like me is because I expose them for being completely full of shit. They're very quick to crush any mention of true Direct because they know deep down that the truth is that PUA and seduction techniques and tactics are all bullshit, and if the Direct approach becomes more popular it would put them out of business.
My main problem with these people is that they simply don't get what Direct is, and instead they believe it's some sort of tactic or technique that they can add to their bag of PUA tricks. As a result they spread too much inaccurate and misleading info about Direct, which just confuses people and sends them down the wrong path. When I jump in and correct them, they don't like it and immediately go into 'attack' mode to try and shut me down.
The main misinformation PUAs and 'seduction gurus' spread about Direct
Firstly, they talk about the concept of 'direct game', but the fact is there's no such thing as 'direct game', because 'Direct' and 'game' are two entirely opposing philosophies that cannot be mixed. 'Direct' is about being 100% real and authentic, whereas 'game' is about using games, manipulation, tactics and techniques (the clue is in the word 'game', I mean come on...). You can't be 100% real whilst also playing games, so let's stop this idea of 'direct game' right now.
(That said, we could agree to use the term 'game' to refer to 'ability with women' if we choose to, which could encompass being Direct and authentic if done right....but I think with most indirect dating coaches, they use the word 'game' to refer to the manipulative and dishonest tactics and techniques they use to get women).
They also talk about 'Direct openers'. In the PUA community, an 'opener' is a line you memorise and use in order to start a conversation with a woman. But when you're a Direct guy, you don't memorise canned opening lines, you just say whatever is on your mind in the moment. But these PUAs have created memorised Direct opening lines, which they refer to as 'direct openers', and this goes against what true Direct is.
I've heard them say that 'Direct makes you shows your cards too quickly'. So? Showing your cards (i.e. your intentions) quickly makes things easier because both you and the girl you're approaching know where you stand, there's no confusion, no misunderstandings, and the interaction can move forward from there if you have mutual attraction. It also sets up a sexual, not platonic, dynamic between you and a girl right from the start. Why any guy would want to hide his intentions with women is beyond me.
I've also heard 'there are girls who will reject your direct game that would have eventually fucked you had you gone indirect'. That is another fallacy. If a girl rejects you when you go Direct, she'd also have rejected you if you had gone indirect too. You cannot make a girl who is flat out not attracted to you become attracted to you. I don't care how many magic indirect techniques you use, it won't work. Direct just helps you find out faster if a girl is attracted to you and interested in hooking up with you or not; indirect simply delays finding this out (which causes you to waste time, energy and even money).
I'm also tired of PUAs and 'seduction gurus' saying that you shouldn't mention sex too early in a conversation and that you should never compliment a woman on her looks. One 'guru' believes it's 'pedestalisation' to compliment a woman on her looks. He doesn't understand that there's a big difference between complimenting a woman vs fawning over her. The former is fine, the latter isn't.
It's misinformation like this that messes guys up and causes their view of approaching women to be skewed, so I'm sure you can understand my frustration about this, and my need to speak the truth in the light of all the lies they're spreading.
It's my mission to promote the Direct Approach
I want to help spread the message of the Direct Approach because I believe it will help guys sort of their problems with women, as well as make the world of dating and hooking up better for both men and women.
Although the Direct Approach is a simple concept in principle, it's still widely misunderstood and most guys simply don't get it, but I am looking to change that as much as I can
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