by Neil K
I'll start this post by stating that I don't want you to become reliant on me forever for your success with women!
What do you mean, I hear you say! You've got a site dedicated to helping guys better their dating lives with the Direct approach, so what do you mean by this!?
Well, allow me to clarify. I am someone who has worked on this subject for years to get it handled. I know my stuff. I can show you the way to getting what you want from dating and relationships. I can inspire you. I can teach you the Direct approach philosophy, how to handle fear, and what to say and do in any situation with women. But ultimately, after you've learned the basics from me, it's then down to YOU as to whether you are successful with women.
I won't be there with you when you switch off your computer and leave your house and go out to meet women. I won't be there when you speak to a girl on the phone or go out on a date. I won't be there to tell you what to say/what to do.
Nope, you will have to eventually become self-reliant and rely upon your own intuition and dating skills for that.
The Crutch Of Relying On Gurus
It's easy to get drawn in by gurus. You see them as people who have mastered the skills you want to learn and you look up to them as if they're some God-like figure who can give you the magic keys to getting where you want to be in life and help you achieve what you want to achieve.
What happens is that many people latch onto and become too reliant upon gurus and this ends up being a crutch. Instead of thinking for themselves, they look to their gurus to make their decisions for them. They trust more in what the gurus say rather than listening to themselves.
Many of these so called 'PUA gurus' feed off this fact, and deliberately set up their dating 'systems' so that people need to constantly rely on them for knowledge. People then keep buying their products (which never work), thus making the 'guru' more and more money.
That said, it is good to be inspired by certain people. Some people in this life stand out amongst others as exceptional people who have achieved mastery in a particular field. It is often wise in life to learn from those who have already walked the path you are trying to walk and who already posseses the skills you want to learn. This can save you a lot of time and effort; you can leverage their knowledge and avoid the same pitfalls they faced along the way, since that person has already been there/done that and they can pass their knowledge onto you. That's what my aim with this website is.
But eventually there must come a time when you step away from the 'guru' and start relying upon yourself. Everything you need to be successful is within you. The 'guru' can show you the way to being successful, but once you've learned everything you need from the 'guru', then you must become self-reliant and become your own dating guru. True power can only be achieved when you become self-reliant.
So, ultimately, my goal here with teaching you the Direct approach is to empower you to become self-reliant. When you master this philosophy and connect with your own inner confidence and intuition and start getting success with women, you won't need me as your teacher any more (but I'd appreciate it if you come back to this blog every so often, of course :-) )
Ultimately, after you've learned what you need here, your success with women using the Direct Approach is down to YOU. I've played my part in it by teaching you what you need to know....now it's up to YOU to go out there and apply it. I wish you luck, my friends.
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