by Neil K
I was thinking the other day that the Direct Approach isn't for everyone. Direct will always be the most effective and efficient way of meeting women, but you have to be a certain kind of character to make it work for you.
Whilst Direct is all about being your true self and expressing your true intentions to women, many guys might not ever develop the balls or character traits need to be so authentic all the time. In this blog post, I want to give an overview of the pros and cons of the main ways of meeting women.
INDIRECT: IF YOU ARE A RISK AVERSE, CONSERVATIVE SORT OF GUY
If you are a guy who doesn't want to or doesn't like to face your fears, or if you can't handle rejection, criticism, or occasional hostile, negative or indifferent reactions from women, then you are probably better off being indirect with women. Basically, if you're a thin-skinned guy with a weak sort of personality, Direct isn't for you.
If you are a guy who doesn't mind taking women out on dates, buying them dinners, drinks, etc, with the possibility that you might end up 'just friends' afterwards, then indirect might be your thing.
If you are a guy who is prepared to invest a lot of time talking to/interacting with women and face the risk that you don't end up with them romantically/sexually after investing all that time, then you might be ok with indirect.
If you are a guy who doesn't mind women manipulating you, wasting your time, and being vague with you about their intentions, then you might be ok with indirect.
If you prefer having friendly, platonic conversation with women rather than talking about sex, then indirect is probably more your thing.
PAYING FOR SEX: IF YOUR GOAL IS TO GET SEX AS QUICKLY AS POSSIBLE
If you are a guy who simply wants sex and nothing more from women, and you have enough money, then the quickest and easiest way to get it is to simply pay for it (from an escort/hooker, etc). That cuts out the bullshit and gets right to the chase. You know 100% for certain that if you pay for sex, you're getting it.
Paying for sex goes against my personal philosophy, though. It's much more satisfying for me if I know the girl I'm getting intimate with is attracted to me for who I truly am and wants to be there out of her own free choice.
Guys who pay for sex generally fall into one of these 3 categories:
1) Guys in society who don't have time to go out and pick up women. Perhaps they are successful businessmen who devote a lot of time to achieving their goals and are left with little time to meet women. These guys usually have plenty of money and desire quick sex, so they don't mind paying for it.
2) Guys who are too scared to approach women in the real world, or guys who are social misfits
3) Guys who have a disability of some sort that prevents them from being successful with women.
DIRECT: IF YOU ARE A GUY WHO WANTS TO MEET WOMEN IN THE MOST EFFECTIVE & EFFICIENT WAY, WITHOUT INVESTING TOO MUCH TIME, MONEY OR EFFORT.
If you are a guy who doesn't mind facing your fears and you can handle rejection, criticism, and any other negative reaction from women without it affecting you emotionally very much (or at all), then Direct is for you. You have to be quite a 'thick skinned' person for Direct to fit well with you.
If you are a risk-taking kind of guy who enjoys the thrill of pushing the envelope, pushing through your fears and generally being a 'no bullshit' kind of guy, then Direct is for you.
If you are a guy who wants to determine which women are attracted to you vs which ones aren't, in the easiest and most efficient way, then Direct is for you.
If you HATE wasting time with women who are not going to hook up with you romantically/sexually, then Direct is for you.
If you HATE putting on a façade and you don't like being anyone other that your real self, then Direct is for you.
If you love talking dirty to women & leading a conversation towards sex, then Direct is for you.
MEETING WOMEN ONLINE VS IN THE REAL WORLD, AND IN THE DAYTIME VS IN BARS & CLUBS
In addition to the main ways of meeting women, there are the main places or environments for meeting women.
If you are a guy who simply can't or won't approach women in the real world, you might be better off sticking to meeting women online. Now I don't personally believe in using the internet to meet women, but some guys might be better suited to it.
If you are a guy who doesn't have time to go out and approach women in person, and want to make use of the internet to save time meeting women, then internet dating might be for you.
If you are a guy who doesn't like bars and clubs all that much, or if you don't or rarely drink alcohol, then you will probably prefer meeting women during the daytime.
CONCLUSION
I just wanted to give you a bit of an overview of the different ways and places to meet women. Direct will always be the optimum and most authentic way of meeting women, and any guy can be Direct if he wants to, but some guys might not have the balls or the motivation to be Direct with women, or there might be other reasons such as lack of time that prevent you from going out into the world to approach women.
The fact that you're visiting this site shows that you're somehow intrigued by idea of Direct, but not every guy in society is cut out for Direct. Besides, I don't actually want EVERY guy in the world to be Direct, otherwise us Direct guys wouldn't stand out as much from other guys, would we? :-)
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