The most common games women play, & how the Direct Approach gives you a shield against them being played on you

What most guys don't realise is that you don't need to play any games in order to counteract women's games. Instead, focus on being Direct, and that will be the best defence you could ever have against their games and manipulation.

Another point I want to make is that you will notice I state that 'being Direct gives you a shield against these games being played on you'. Being Direct doesn't always stop women trying to play games with you, but it DOES give you an impenetrable shield if they do. It literally puts a dead stop to their manipulation and games if they decide to try them on you, thus taking away their manipulative powers and preventing you falling victim to them.

Why do women play games with men? Are they just 'wired' that way, or is it down to the dating advice they read online, in books and in magazines that has brainwashed them to act that way towards men? My view is it's the latter. 

I'll go through the most common games I've seen women play. I can't possibly list every game they play, but these are definitely the most common ones that guys who are not Direct seem to fall victim to.

The most common games women play

1. Playing hard to get/pretending they're not really interested when they really are

Many women play this game because they don't want to seem too eager to get with a guy, or simply because they get a kick out of toying with him about their intentions.

How Direct shields you against this: When you're Direct with women, you force them to reveal their true intentions to you, i.e. let you know whether they're interested in you or not. For this reason they can't really toy with you and play hard to get; you'll find out either way whether they want to hook up with you or not.

2. Pretending they're interested in a guy when they're not really, just so they can get free stuff from him

Many women play this game because they want to get money, expensive material possessions, free dinners, free holidays, and other financial or non-financial favours from guys without actually having to date or have sex with these guys.

How Direct shields you against this: I've already discussed this point extensively in my previous post, 'How Direct Takes Away A Woman's Manipulative Powers & Why It's Far Riskier To Be Indirect Than It Is To Be Direct', so please read that if you haven't already.

3. Trying to make a guy jealous

If a woman plays this game, she's trying to get the guy to chase her so she can gain the upper hand.

How Direct shields you against this: A Direct guy has perfected the art of not being jealous at all in his dating and relationships. If a girl 'tries to make him jealous', he simply doesn't care. He's totally indifferent to it. When the girl realises this game doesn't work on him, she'll either stop doing it or leave him alone.

4. Withholding sex

Many women use sex as a tool to manipulate men. If a guy isn't acting a certain way or giving them what they demand, they'll withhold sex from him until he does do what they want or give in to their demands. Don't fall for this one! 

How Direct shields you against this: It's unlikely women will try this game on a Direct guy, since he is usually seen as a sexual guy and is good at getting women turned on with his words and attitude. But if she did play this game, a Direct guy would be gone and on to another women. He would never give in to her demands. 

5. Not putting out on a first date or too early, pretending they're 'not that kind of girl', etc

Because of the bullshit dating advice many women read, a lot of women mistakenly think it makes them a 'slut' to put out on a first date or too soon after meeting a guy. Fortunately, though, this outdated attitude is changing thanks to people in general becoming more sexually liberated.

How Direct shields you against this: A Direct guy has mastered the art of erotic sexual talk and leading a conversation towards sex, therefore he knows exactly what to say (and do) while on a date/getting to know a girl in order to get her turned on and ready to have sex with him. As a result, he's much less likely to have this game played on him. 

It's usually indirect guys who fall victim to this game, because they have polite, pleasant, platonic conversations with women and they don't know how to lead the conversation towards sex and get women turned on with their words. Hence when they try to 'make a move' on a girl she gives him excuses such as 'I'm not that type of girl' or she makes him wait for sex.

6. Ignoring a guy/silent treatment

Women who play this game do so because a guy didn't give in to her demands, she couldn't control him or get him to do what she wanted (haven't we heard this before? Yep, I thought so). She ignores him in order to teach him a lesson, hoping he'll change his mind and do what she demands. But the irony is, if he does that she'll lose respect for him and know that she can walk all over him, so her attraction towards him will dramatically decrease.

How Direct shields you against this: A Direct guy simply doesn't care if a girl ignores him. He simply leaves her alone and carries on with his life as normal, meets other women and he leaves it up to the girl to sort her bad attitude out and to contact him first. The girl would be hoping he'll contact her asking why she's ignoring him so that she can gain the upper hand over him, but a Direct guy wouldn't do that. He will have plenty of other girls calling him to hook up with him. He doesn't sweat over her. 

If the girl has any genuine interest she'll wonder why he's not like other guys, i.e. why he's not contacting her and begging her to come back, etc. This will increase her level of interest toward him, especially if she finds out he's been seeing other women during the period of silence, and as and when she does decide to get back in contact with him HE will now have the power and the upper hand.

7. Sulking, throwing a tantrum, pretending to be in a bad mood, or creating any other fake drama between her and the guy

Women play this game for the same reasons as the previous one.

How Direct shields you against this: A Direct guy never tolerates such rude or disrespectful behaviour from women. If she does this, she's out the door, and he makes that crystal clear to her.

8. Making a guy wait before they text or reply back to him (the waiting game)

Much dating advice women read tells them not to contact a guy too soon after meeting him, and not to reply too soon to his calls or texts, as it would make them seem 'too desperate' if they reply too quickly and would be seen as 'too keen' or 'too available'. This bullshit belief needs to die; people should quit worrying about that shit and instead just contact whoever they are attracted to whenever they feel like contacting them, even if that's very soon after meeting them.

How Direct shields you against this: A Direct guy doesn't care whether a girl calls him or not. His attitude is that if she waits too long to call him or reply to him, she's missing out on hooking up with him. He isn't sitting by the phone waiting for her to contact him. He's out living his life and hooking up with other women.

9. Being rude or disrespectful to a guy/nagging him/nitpicking things about him

Women who do this are either a) rude, nasty people, in which case you shouldn't be bothering with them anyway, or b) just testing a guy to see how he'll react. If you react by letting her get away with it, she'll know you are a pushover with no backbone and she'll lose respect and attraction towards you. However, if you put a stop to it she'll know you're a man with backbone and confidence.

How Direct shields you against this: A Direct guy makes it clear to a girl before hooking up with her that he lives by honesty, trust and respect and that he won't tolerate any rude or disrespectful behaviour from a girl, and that if she wants to be with him then she has to show these values towards him also, otherwise he'll walk away. So if she later decides to be rude or disrespectful he will call her out on it, and if it happens repeatedly, he'll definitely walk away so she will lose him. If she has any real interest in him, she will not want to lose him so she won't play this game.

10. Seeing if she can make you jump through hoops in order to get with her

Some women just get a kick out of seeing what hoops they can get a guy to jump through to hook up with them. These hoops include taking them out for dinner, buying them gifts, or getting a guy to change his schedule just to accommodate them. Be a man who refuses to jump through any hoops at all.

How Direct shields you against this: A Direct guy never jumps through hoops to get women; instead he does things his way. He bypasses all that bullshit and simply concentrates on being Direct and getting a woman turned on with his words, and trying to hook up with her. Once a woman realises you won't jump through her hoops, she'll either end up hooking up with you (if she's genuinely interested) or she'll get bored and leave you alone (if she wasn't truly into you but was just teasing you).

11. All those rules from the book 'The Rules'.

I'm sure you're familiar with the now infamous book 'The Rules' that gives women a list of 'dating rules' that they should follow in order to 'capture the heart of Mr Right'. But the truth is, these 'rules' are basically games and manipulative tactics. I can't be bothered to list all of rules from that book here, but suffice to say that Direct will give you a shield against them all.

How Direct shields you against this: A Direct guy would NEVER fall victim to any of those rules being played on him, since a Direct guy sets the tone of his relationships and interactions with women. He would therefore spot a women who is trying to use 'The Rules' on him immediately.

Conclusion

The only way to never again fall victim to any of women's games or manipulative tactics is to be Direct. If you are indirect, you leave the door wide open for women to play all these common games with you, and now that you've read this post you'll only have yourself to blame if that happens to you.