by Neil K
Womanisers/players are sometimes portrayed in a bad light.
There's an underlying assumption in society that if a guy is a womaniser, that he's dishonest, that he treats women badly and that he doesn't respect them. People use the terms 'player' and 'womaniser' as negative, derogatory labels to try and make men feel ashamed for dating or sleeping with multiple women.
When many people think of a player of a womaniser, they automatically seem to think of a guy who plays games and uses manipulative tactics to get women into bed, a guy who is not honest with women and who cheats on women behind their back. They also imagine him to be someone who mistreats women and even verbally or physically abuse them.
However, these premises really aren't always true. A womaniser or player is simply a guy who dates/hooks up with multiple women rather than being monogamous with only one. It's possible to be a womaniser or player whilst also being honest, ethical and treating women with respect. You could call this type of guy an 'honest player' or an 'ethical womaniser'.
The best way to be an 'honest player' is to be Direct, of course. In fact, a Direct guy who dates multiple women is naturally an 'honest player'. He never hides the fact that he wants to see multiple women - he makes that known right from the start. If the girl is cool with it, great. If not, he can leave her alone and find someone else who is. No one gets lied to or mislead, so there is therefore no animosity.
A Direct guy/honest player also treats women with respect, and even though he prefers to date multiple women he always treats each women right and ensures they have a good time with him.
Of course, there is also such thing as a 'dishonest player', and that is a guy who dates multiple women but he's not honest with women about this fact - he uses games and manipulation to get them in bed and he often treats women badly. But as Direct guys, we want to be 'honest players'.
Society needs to leave behind the idea that being a player or womaniser automatically involves lying to or mistreating women. That really doesn't have to be the case. But it starts with us all being honest with each other when it comes to our sexual intentions.
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