Are you guilty of 'excuse syndrome' when it comes to dating & relationships?

1. "I'm not good looking enough"

A lot of guys believe you have to be good looking to get the Direct approach to work for you. I won't lie, being good looks does help, but it's not the be all and end all. It's common in society to see average or even ugly guys with good looking women.

Good looks might get you noticed by women....but if you are lacking confidence, then good looks won't help you to keep a girl. Once she figures out you lack confidence, your relationship won't last long.

Unless you look like a completely deformed misfit, you should never worry about 'not being good looking enough'. Seriously, just throw it out of your mind and concentrate on approaching the women you are attracted to.

2. "I don't make a lot of money"

Another common misconception that a lot of guys believe is that you need to have plenty of money in order to be successful with women. I've got a friend who believes this, and no amount of telling him otherwise will change his mind. He simply believes that the way to attract women is to have cash.

If you're a Direct guy, you can get women without spending much money or even by spending no money at all. It doesn't cost you any money to go out in the daytime and approach women (besides buying something to eat and drink for yourself, perhaps, when you go out). It doesn't cost much to take a girl for a cup of coffee and get to know her that way. It doesn't cost you any money to get her back to your place and get intimate, and you don't have to spend a lot of money even if you start seeing a girl on a regular basis.

Money only comes into your relationships if you live together with a woman in a serious relationship or marriage, or you share your lives together, have a joint bank account, give her your credit card, etc. But if you are seeing a girl for some sort of no-strings casual sex arrangement, then money shouldn't even come into it. You don't have to buy gifts or take women out for dinner, take them on holidays, etc. Those things are nice to do if you're in a serious, long-term relationship, but you don't need to do those things, especially if you are more into more short to mid term casual relationships.

If you are a guy who doesn't have a lot of money, you can still get laid....IF you know what you're doing.

Of course, I am NOT saying you should be a poor or broke guy. Money is important in life; having plenty of money makes life easier and allows you more choices to do more things....but it doesn't make you better with women in and of itself.

Just because you suddenly make a lot of money doesn't necessarily mean you'll do better with women. Being good with women and making money are separate skills. 

The bottom line is: as a Direct guy, you can be successful with women by spending a minimal amount of money, so get rid of this excuse from now on if it's been a block for you.

3. "I'm too old to pull hot/younger women"

This is nothing more than a limiting belief. Every day, there are countless examples of older guys who pull attractive, younger women. There will always be a percentage of women who prefer older guys, so if you want it bad enough you can make it happen. 

As for pulling really attractive women, the truth is it takes exactly the same amount of skill and effort to pull an attractive woman as it does to pull an average or ugly one, so you might as well just go for the ones you find most attractive.

4. "I was a late starter with women/I don't have much experience"

Some guys are late starters in dating and relationships. Maybe they didn't do too well with women in their younger days and now it makes them feel inadequate in some way and prevents them from trying to approach women and improve their dating life.

However, being a late starter is nothing more than a bullshit excuse when you think about it logically. It doesn't matter how little experience or how good you are with women right now; what matters is where you want to be in the future and how hard you're prepared to work to make it happen. 

You just need to make a decision to improve your dating life from this day forward and commit to shaping the future as you want it to be. If you do this, the results, skills and experience will follow.

5. "I have been hurt in the past and had a lot of bad experiences with women"

I often hear guys bitching and complaining about how they've been hurt, used or manipulated by women in the past, endlessly whining about all their bad experiences with women. But talking about your negative experiences won't help you improve your dating life from now on and going into the future.

Again, it's how you shape your life from this day going forward that matters. If you keep dwelling on the past, you'll stay stuck there in your mind and you won't be able to move forward into a more successful, healthier dating life. 

Also, dwelling on your past failures can make you bitter and jaded about women, which is not a healthy place to be in with your mindset.

I don't care how badly you've been hurt in the past by women. Make a decision to let it go, learn about the Direct approach, then get out there and apply what you've learned and make it happen.

6. "I will freak women out if I just walk up to them and be Direct, especially if I do it in the daytime"

This is yet another limiting belief. I've heard some guys say this sort of thing when I talk about the Direct approach and approaching during the daytime. But these same guys have never even tried it out for themselves, so they use this limiting belief as an excuse not to try.

In my experience, even with women who reject me, approaching women Direct and during the daytime doesn't freak them out. If anything, it makes their day to be approached like that.

7. "I don't have enough time to go out and approach women"

The average Direct approach takes a few minutes at most to do, so I don't understand why 'not having enough time to approach women' could ever be a genuine reason for your lack of success with women. Even if you work in a 9 to 5 job, you could still have time to do at least 5 approaches a day if you wanted to, either on your lunch break or on your way to and from work. 

And then what about your weekends? Surely you can find time to do some simple Direct approaches? Lack of time is no excuse at all. If it is, then MAKE time.

8. "I don't know where to meet women"/"There aren't enough opportunities for me to meet women where I live"

Well come on! Seriously? You don't know where to meet women? How about anywhere and everywhere as you go about your life? And if there 'aren't enough opportunities' for you to meet women where you live then either you live in a remote part of the countryside or you just aren't noticing the abundance of good looking women all around you everyday. If there aren't enough opportunities to meet women where you live (which I seriously doubt), go to your nearest town of city, or even try meeting them online if you have to (not that I recommend meeting women online as such, but if you must that's up to you).

9. "Women aren't very friendly or approachable where I live"

It may be true that due to certain cultural differences, that women in some cities, towns or countries might be friendlier than women in other places. But it's really a huge over-generalisation to assume that (all) women in your region are not very friendly or approachable. If you really believe this limiting and negative belief, then you are already doomed before you go out and meet women. Life is a funny thing - you tend to get out of life whatever you expect, so if you go out expecting unfriendly reactions from women, then that's probably what you'll get.

It's far more empowering to expect a positive response before you approach a woman, and accept whatever happens after you approach. Don't anticipate any kind of negative or unfriendly reaction at all.

Conclusion

These are the most common excuses I have heard, and continue to hear, in my life, as to why guys aren't being successful with women. As you can see, none of these excuses has any real basis in reality; they are all in your head. Letting go of these excuses allows you to move forward with a clear mind and take full responsibility for getting the results you are looking for, without constantly blaming everyone and everything outside of yourself for your lack of results.