Changing your negative perception of women & dating: most women aren't heartless bitches & they have fears & insecurities too

However in my experience most women are decent and friendly enough, if you just give them a chance and if you are honest, Direct  and real with them.

Direct is about being a lover of women, not a hater of women

First of all I'd like to say that being a Direct guy is about being a lover of women, not a hater. You are not misogynistic towards women at all. You appreciate and like them for their beauty and also as unique human beings.

So the first step to getting rid of your bitter, negative perception of women is to start being a lover of women, not a hater.

You get what you expect in life and in dating

If you go through life expecting the worst, life has a strange way of making what you fear come true. On the flip side, if you approach life expecting good things to happen, you tend to get more positive things happening to you. I'm not saying life will always run smoothly or there won't be obstacles and challenges, but there is often a link between what you expect to happen and what actually happens in your life. 

The same applies with women and dating. If you go out expecting women to be unfriendly and manipulative towards you, then what do you expect to happen?

I know a lot of guys have been screwed over by women in the past, and it's hard to have positive expectations towards women when so much negative stuff has happened in the past. However, if you want to move forward into and a happy and successful dating life, you need to let the past go and move into the future with a more positive attitude. Until you do that, nothing will change. Holding on to your bitterness about what women have done to you in the past will spoil your present and future interactions with women, so resolve to let your dating past go now.

Women are human and have fears and insecurities too

A lot of guys who are improving their dating and relationship skills tend to focus on how they can get rid of their fear of approaching and interacting with women, but what they don't realise is that women have fears and insecurities too! A lot of women are scared to death of rejection, and they get nervous when talking to a guy they're attracted to also. Don't think it's just men who feel fear and insecurity.

Many women are insecure about their looks, their weight, the way they're dressed, whether guys will find them attractive, how they compare to other women and celebrities, etc. They might appear confident on the outside, but don't be fooled.

It's a much more healthy attitude to realise women are human beings with emotions, fears and insecurities too, just as men are. You can then treat them as real people and not some alien species that has to be deciphered and figured out. It also makes you feel a lot more relaxed around women when you realise they're only human too.

Being your real self and honest about who you are around women

A lot of guys are afraid to be their real selves around women because they fear women will be harsh or judgemental towards them. For example, maybe you work in a modest job and have a modest lifestyle, but you're afraid to tell women for fear of not being seen as successful enough, so you exaggerate things to make yourself seem better than you really are.

Or perhaps you haven't had much success with women in the past, and you lack experience with them, but instead of being honest with women about this you put on an act and act all cool as if you are a Casanova sex God or something.

Why do I mention these things? Part of the title of this blog post is 'most women aren't heartless bitches', and you will find that if you are actually totally honest about who you are in life, most women won't laugh at you or be harsh or judgemental about it. What you'll find is that your honesty and authenticity is an attractive and refreshing trait that makes you more attractive to them than if you put on an act.

Your attitude should be that women who are harsh and judgemental towards you for being authentic and who don't like you for who you really are can go and fuck themselves. (And I'm not being a heartless bitch either by saying that!). It's their problem not yours.

Isn't having a positive perception of women a bit naive? Doesn't it leave me open to being manipulated and treated badly? After all there ARE some nasty bitches out there. Shouldn't I just assume the worst so I can be more on my guard? 

If you always assume the worst, you'll go through life as a paranoid, bitter wreck. Is that really the sort of person you want to be? I thought not.

The beauty of being a Direct guy is that by being Direct with women, you automatically have a bullet proof shield against, nasty, manipulative women. Put bluntly, women cannot manipulate you when you're Direct. They can try, but it doesn't work. 

I'll explain how and why this is so....

A Direct guy makes it crystal clear what he's looking for from a woman right from the start and he will not waste time with women who aren't on the same page as him. He is not prepared to jump through hoops, spend tons of money before sleeping with them, nor is he willing to waste time with bullshit games and manipulation. If women try to manipulate or treat him badly, he's willing to walk away and move on to another woman. By living this way, a Direct guy takes away a woman's manipulative power and gives himself a shield against it.

You should of course have an awareness of the types of games and manipulative tactics women use, I am not saying be naive and pretend they don't exist, just don't let these become your sole focus. 

As a Direct guy, you don't really need to worry about being screwed over by nasty bitches. Direct will take care of that problem itself. Your only focus should be on being Direct with all attractive women you interact with, and as you do so you'll naturally weed out the nasty ones while attracting the ones who are good for you. Instead of being paranoid and on your guard, just focus on being Direct.

Conclusion

Hopefully this post has helped you realise women are human beings and most are perfectly decent enough people if given a chance. This a healthier attitude to have than being paranoid and on your guard around women.

In summary, the keys to getting rid of your negative perception of women and dating are:

1) Be a lover of women, not a hater
2) Let go of the past dating failures and have positive expectations for your present and future dating life
3) Realise women are human and have just as many fears and insecurities as men
4) Always be your real self and be honest about who you are
5) And of course, ALWAYS be Direct with all women you're attracted to about your intentions